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Sky High Relaxation – Hypnotherapy at The Shard

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Last Tuesday I had the pleasure teaming up with my friends at Serene Social to deliver a group hypnotherapy session to some wonderful people at one of London’s most iconic buildings, The Shard.

We rolled out yoga mats, everyone comfy and I guided everyone into a deep state; helping them to access their subconscious minds and create more calm and positivity.

Afterwards we enjoyed some wonderful turmeric tea from Wunder Workshop and the stunning views of London.

I’m running another on 21st June – click here to book

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Top 5 Regrets of the Dying

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Morbid post alert! I’m sorry, but I’m not sorry. This is way too much of an important topic not to write about!

When I think about people looking back over their lives with a sense of regret, it makes me feel really sad.

But, I know how easy it can be to go through your life ‘putting up’ with issues that seem too troublesome to tackle, feeling too afraid to confront them or just getting caught up in the busyness of every day life to do the things they really want to do. Change can seem really hard.

So sometimes a book or an idea, that really hits you in the gut, is just the thing to be the catalyst for change. This is that book.

In Top 5 Regrets of the Dying, Bronnie Ware draws on her experience as a palliative care nurse.  Through working closing with people who were dying, she saw similar themes around regret cropping up again and again.

Here are the themes that she noticed. I invite you to consider whether any of these could apply to you, so that you might have the awareness to make changes now, and avoid the regret in the future. I know I’ll be doing this.

1. ”I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” This, apparently, is the most common regret of all. What dreams do you want to fulfil? Are you following your own path, or someone else’s? What action can you take today to start doing more of what you want today?

2.”I wish I hadn’t worked so hard” If you’re someone that works too hard (like I can sometimes) this might hit you like a tonne of bricks. It’s easy to allow work to become all consuming, and to believe that there will always be ‘some other time’ to relax and do things we enjoy or spent time with the people we love.

The time to enjoy your life is now. Is it time to get off the treadmill of work and make more time for you?

3. ”I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.” Bronnie notes that lots of us suppress our feelings because we don’t want to rock the boat or upset other people.

Bitterness and resentment are the result; sense of not being free.

Are you holding something in? What steps could you take to be more open and courageous when expressing yourself? It might be hard at first, but it gets easier and the results can be powerful.

4.”I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.” Many people get so caught up in their own lives that old friends get left behind. ”Everyone misses their friends when they’re dying” Bronnie says.

I challenge you to reach out to 3 old friends today – send them a letter, email or give them a call. I’m sure they’ll be thrilled to hear from you.

5. ”I wish that I had let myself be happier” ”Many people don’t realise until the end of their lives that happiness is a choice”, says Bronnie. I invite you to think about how you can bring more play, silliness and joy in to your life.

I’ve you’ve been stuck in old patterns, it can be comforting and familiar to want to stay the same, but change is possible.

Now, I’d love to hear, do any of these ring true for you? What step can you take today to make a change? Let me know in the comments.

Ready to make a change? Get in touch with me for hypnotherapy sessions in London.

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Hypnotherapy for Fear of Public Speaking

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Hypnotherapy for Fear of Public Speaking

Public speaking is a biggie in terms of what people come and have hypnotherapy for; I see several folks a week for this.

We’ve all heard the statistic that people fear speaking in public more than they fear death…and it can cause intense fear and discomfort during the talk or presentation, but also in the days, weeks and even months leading up to it.

Here are a few of the things you might be worried about if you fear public speaking:

  • That you’ll somehow lose control of your body, freak out, your mind will go blank or have you’ll have a panic attack
  • People will judge you negatively
  • That you’ll look or sound nervous
  • That you won’t be good enough and it will affect you in your life or career.

What I’ve noticed from working with lots of people on this issue is that often the fear is a learned behaviour; a past experience with speaking in public, whether at school or work, that has stayed with you. I’ve had several client tell me about an incident at school where they got up to speak and were laughed at or ridiculed in some way, that led to an intense fear ever since.

I had my own experience with this at University. I got up to give my presentation and I felt so terrified I couldn’t see straight and my lungs felt like they were on fire. (I’m happy to say I’m pretty comfortable with public speaking these days having had hypnotherapy for it myself and I get more comfortable with it all the time).

The subconscious mind latches on to intense experiences and the fear created is a means to try and ‘protect’ you from a similar situation in the future. In this case, the fight or flight response is actually doing the opposite, and creating more problems rather than protecting you. This is good news because it means we can unlearn it and turn it around.

Here are a few tips on overcoming a fear of public speaking

Reframe the fear

Evidence has suggested that those that perceive the fight or flight response as something helpful which will enhance their focus and keep them on their toes are less likely to suffer it’s negative effects.

Remember that the feeling of fear or nervousness is just caused by adrenaline. It can be helpful to think of it as additional energy that is fuelling a great speech.

Bruce Springsteen was known to get nervous before performing but would tell himself that the sensations we spurring him on and improving his performance!

It’s not about you

What other people think of you is none of your business. I mean this in a nice way!

What people think is made up of their own experiences, their upbringings and their beliefs and even the sort of day they’re having. It’s not about you.

So you can give back that responsibility knowing that what other people think of you is their stuff, not yours. Just focus on being yourself and doing your best.

Direct your attention outwards

When you fear public speaking, you may find that you become very conscious of yourself, your own thoughts, feelings and bodily sensations.

Work on directing your attention outwards and on to your audience by focusing intently on what you see and hear in the room and by focusing on the message that you’re getting across.

Belly Breaths

When we’re fearful we tend to take very quick, shallow breaths. Taking deep belly breaths helps to send a message to our nervous system that we’re relaxed. So breathe in deeply and let your belly expand, before slowly exhaling.

Put these tips into practise and get in touch with me to chat about how hypnotherapy for fear of public speaking could help you.
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Your FREE Hypnotherapy MP3

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Want to experience hypnotherapy from the comfort of your own couch?

I’m really happy to be giving away a totally FREE 30 minute hypnotherapy MP3.

Its designed to help you to relax, switch off and become more calm and at ease.

Just click the button below, enter your details and the recording will be in our inbox within minutes. Easy!hypnotherapy london

To get the most from the recording, wear headphones and make sure you’re not going to be disturbed for half an hour. You might even like to listen before you go to sleep to calm an overactive mind and ensure you drift off swiftly and peacefully.

I get emails from all over the world telling me how much this has helped them…and I really hope it helps you too!

I’d love to hear your feedback on this recording. Tweet me at @Cbrotheridge or send me an email to chloe@easywaytochange.co.uk and let me know how you get on.

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Choosing the Best Hypnotherapist for You

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People often worry about choosing a hypnotherapist, since you’ll want to find the best hypnotherapist to ensure you get the good results.

Choosing any kind of therapist can be a challenge. There are times when I might refer a client on to a different type of therapist and unless someone is known personally or I have a recommendation from someone else, it can be hard to choose which one is going to be the most suitable.

It’s quite common for people to be held back from pursuing hypnotherapy (or any kind of therapy) because they’re worried about making the right choice.

Here are a few tips for choosing the best hypnotherapist (or any kind of therapist for that matter)

  • Much of the success of any type of therapy comes from the relationship that you have with the therapist. Choosing someone that you feel understands you and who you can open up to, trust and feel comfortable with, is really important. Having good rapport with the therapist is often a marker for success in therapy.
  • Have a good in depth chat over the phone or face to face with the therapist. Ask lots of questions and ask them to tell you about what it’s like working with them. Like me, therapists will often offer a free phone call or face to face consultation to help clients to decide if I’m the right therapist for them.
  • Ask around for recommendations from friends or colleagues, or look into testimonials from a third party source like these on Google +. That way you can be sure the testimonials are genuine.
  • Try to choose a hypnotherapist who specialises in what you want to work on – for example anxiety, smoking or weight loss.
  • Have a healthy dose of scepticism around hypnotherapists that promise magical results in very few sessions. Often, change can take time and it will vary from person to person. Also, results from any type of therapy are never guaranteed.
  • Finally, hypnotherapists often have different techniques and approaches, so if you don’t have success with one at first, it is always worth trying another who you may have more success with.

I wish you loads of luck!

 

 

Hypnotherapy Myths Busted

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The word ‘hypnotherapy’ can conjure up various images in many people’s minds; that gag from Little Britain (“Look into my eyes not around the eyes look into my eyes!”) the swinging pendulum, people being made to quack like a dog…

I’m often being asked to bust myths around hypnotherapy give people the low down on what it’s really like, rather than the (slightly sinister!) image it sometimes gets on TV and in the movies.

  1. You’ll be ‘put under’ and you’ll lose control

This is a biggie that I hear a lot and a common concern that people have around hypnotherapy. I have to say that nobody gets ‘put under’. I hate this term! I reminds me of of getting put under general anesthetic, which of course, hypnotherapy is nothing like.

The somewhat more boring truth is that you’re aware of everything that happens during a hypnotherapy session and you don’t get ‘put under’ anything!

I help clients to calm down the conscious, ‘thinking’ part of the mind, so that their subconscious can listen in and take positive things on board.

It often feels very relaxing, sometimes like daydreaming. You could take yourself out of the experience at any time, if you wanted to.

  1. Many people can’t go in to ‘hypnosis’

What people don’t realise about hypnotherapy is that it’s a really natural state of mind, and we go into similar states several times during the day.

When we day-dream, get mega relaxed in front of the TV, or do things on autopilot, we’re in a similar state of mind to hypnosis.

Anyone can do it…if they want to!

  1. You won’t remember anything from the session

Although it’s nice to think a hypnotherapist will wave their magic wand and cure us overnight, it’s not quite how it works.

During a session you’re often required to engage in the process, using your imagination help seed an idea into your unconscious mind.

You’ll still be aware of what’s being said in the session.

  1. It’s mainly used for stopping smoking

Many people first think of stopping smoking when they think of hypnotherapy, but it’s even more commonly used these days for issues like anxiety and confidence issues and even IBS, for which it’s approved by NICE.

  1. It’s mind control

Do you really think anyone could control your mind?!

In fact, it’s more about getting back in control of old, unhelpful patterns of thinking and feeling.

To find out more about hypnotherapy sessions in London, call me on 07977315063.

Selfridges Beauty Event

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I was recently asked by Selfridges to attend their ‘Beauty from Within’ event where myself and two other experts were on hand giving advice to event goers about how to manage stress and boost confidence.

It’s often said that confidence is the most attractive thing about a person and when we’re calmer and less stressed we’re more able to take care of ourselves PLUS it shows on our skin.

It’s really nice to see big brands like Selfridges putting an emphasis on health and well being and I was really happy to be part of it.

They even had a photo booth!

 

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Photo credit: Lauren Armes www.welltodollondon.com

Books that will change your life

As a bit of a personal development junkie and lover of mind expanding books I often get asked for recommendations on what to read. Here I’ve listed the ones that have had the biggest impact on me.

A New Earth by Ekhart Tolle

I first read this on a Buddhist Meditation retreat in India (where else!?) and I swear for a moment while I was reading it, I had a moment of realisation, as if the whole world suddenly made sense and I had unlocked the key to happiness and all existence…The second later it was gone! Anyway, I keep re-reading this book in the hope that I’ll remember what that insight was.

‘Loving What Is’ By Byron Katie

This woman is the real deal. If I listen to her audio book I’ll sometimes walk down the street with tears streaming down my face. What she says is so moving and so loving. It’s all about accepting the way things are and knowing that this is exactly how things should be.

Feeling Good by David Burns

The big daddy of cognitive behavioural therapy, this book contains loads of exercises and insights into overcoming anxiety and depression.

The Power of Intention by Wayne Dyer

He says ”Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change’ and I think this is so true. What we intend and focus on creates our reality and this book helps you to change the way you see the world.

The Success Principles by Jack Canfield

This is just general motivation and good advice on overcoming fear and helping you to be successful in any area you choose.

The Biology of Belief by Bruce Lipton

As a hypnotherapist I know all too well how our thoughts and beliefs effect our bodies having helped people with numerous stress related physical issues. This book shows us how our bodies can change when we retrain our thinking. Fascinating stuff!

The Relationship Handbook by George Pranski.

This book is quite amazing and helps with relationships with a partner but is also applicable to other relationships in your life too. It helps you to see your partners moods for what they are and not take it personally. Get your partner to read it too for best results.

I’d love to hear about what books have helped you the most, please let us know in the comments.

The secret to successfully changing habits

Let’s face it, almost ALL of us want to change one habit or another, whether it’s to help us to lose weight, stop smoking, get fit, play an instrument or be more productive.

Often we’ll try to use good ol’ willpower to create or change a habit.

However the problem with willpower is that it’s a limited resource that actually depletes our glucose reserves. It’s like exercising a muscle; and it can get fatigued and loses energy the more we use it.

Ever noticed how after a few days on a diet you fall off the wagon in a spectacular (and carb laden) way? Or a few days into your new fitness regime, going to the gym seems like a Sisyphean task? It’s the willpower muscle finally buckling and giving way.

The truth is our brains are on a mission to conserve energy. A habit is like a well trodden path that’s easier to go follow. To stray from that habit uses up willpower, and therefore energy.

If we want to change a habit, we need lessen the need to rely on willpower as much as possible and make the new habit an easier option.

In his book, ‘The Happiness Advantage’ Sean Achor talks about lowering the amount of energy needed to change a habit, to make them easier to stick to.

The example that he uses is of playing the guitar. At first he has to go to the cupboard in the hall to get his guitar out before he can practise it. He noticed that he was hardly practising at all.

He discovered that by putting his guitar next to the sofa, where he could easily see it, pick it up to play it there and then, he massively increased the amount that he practised. Just the act of having it closer to hand lowered the amount of willpower he needed to create the new habit.

This works the same with other things; take eating junk food for for example. If you have junk food within easy reach, you’re going to be much for likely to eat it compared with if it’s locked away in a cupboard up high, or even sitting in the shop 10 minutes walk away.

Now I’m not saying that not having it in the house makes it impossible to eat it! Of course not! It’s just that the extra effort required to go to the shop, or reach up high into the cupboard, could be enough to make NOT eating the junk food an easier option.

Other examples include packing your gym clothes the night before to make it easier to work out, or getting an app (like Antisocial) on your computer to block social media between certain hours, making it harder to surf Facebook or Twitter at will.

Having systems in place to make things easier for you to change a habit could make all the difference.

I’d love to know one specific example of how you could use this in your life. Let me know in the comments and please share this article if you liked it.

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