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Selfridges Beauty Event

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beauty from the inside

I was recently asked by Selfridges to attend their ‘Beauty from Within’ event where myself and two other experts were on hand giving advice to event goers about how to manage stress and boost confidence.

It’s often said that confidence is the most attractive thing about a person and when we’re calmer and less stressed we’re more able to take care of ourselves PLUS it shows on our skin.

It’s really nice to see big brands like Selfridges putting an emphasis on health and well being and I was really happy to be part of it.

They even had a photo booth!

 

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Photo credit: Lauren Armes www.welltodollondon.com

Books that will change your life

As a bit of a personal development junkie and lover of mind expanding books I often get asked for recommendations on what to read. Here I’ve listed the ones that have had the biggest impact on me.

A New Earth by Ekhart Tolle

I first read this on a Buddhist Meditation retreat in India (where else!?) and I swear for a moment while I was reading it, I had a moment of realisation, as if the whole world suddenly made sense and I had unlocked the key to happiness and all existence…The second later it was gone! Anyway, I keep re-reading this book in the hope that I’ll remember what that insight was.

‘Loving What Is’ By Byron Katie

This woman is the real deal. If I listen to her audio book I’ll sometimes walk down the street with tears streaming down my face. What she says is so moving and so loving. It’s all about accepting the way things are and knowing that this is exactly how things should be.

Feeling Good by David Burns

The big daddy of cognitive behavioural therapy, this book contains loads of exercises and insights into overcoming anxiety and depression.

The Power of Intention by Wayne Dyer

He says ”Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change’ and I think this is so true. What we intend and focus on creates our reality and this book helps you to change the way you see the world.

The Success Principles by Jack Canfield

This is just general motivation and good advice on overcoming fear and helping you to be successful in any area you choose.

The Biology of Belief by Bruce Lipton

As a hypnotherapist I know all too well how our thoughts and beliefs effect our bodies having helped people with numerous stress related physical issues. This book shows us how our bodies can change when we retrain our thinking. Fascinating stuff!

The Relationship Handbook by George Pranski.

This book is quite amazing and helps with relationships with a partner but is also applicable to other relationships in your life too. It helps you to see your partners moods for what they are and not take it personally. Get your partner to read it too for best results.

I’d love to hear about what books have helped you the most, please let us know in the comments.

The secret to successfully changing habits

Let’s face it, almost ALL of us want to change one habit or another, whether it’s to help us to lose weight, stop smoking, get fit, play an instrument or be more productive.

Often we’ll try to use good ol’ willpower to create or change a habit.

However the problem with willpower is that it’s a limited resource that actually depletes our glucose reserves. It’s like exercising a muscle; and it can get fatigued and loses energy the more we use it.

Ever noticed how after a few days on a diet you fall off the wagon in a spectacular (and carb laden) way? Or a few days into your new fitness regime, going to the gym seems like a Sisyphean task? It’s the willpower muscle finally buckling and giving way.

The truth is our brains are on a mission to conserve energy. A habit is like a well trodden path that’s easier to go follow. To stray from that habit uses up willpower, and therefore energy.

If we want to change a habit, we need lessen the need to rely on willpower as much as possible and make the new habit an easier option.

In his book, ‘The Happiness Advantage’ Sean Achor talks about lowering the amount of energy needed to change a habit, to make them easier to stick to.

The example that he uses is of playing the guitar. At first he has to go to the cupboard in the hall to get his guitar out before he can practise it. He noticed that he was hardly practising at all.

He discovered that by putting his guitar next to the sofa, where he could easily see it, pick it up to play it there and then, he massively increased the amount that he practised. Just the act of having it closer to hand lowered the amount of willpower he needed to create the new habit.

This works the same with other things; take eating junk food for for example. If you have junk food within easy reach, you’re going to be much for likely to eat it compared with if it’s locked away in a cupboard up high, or even sitting in the shop 10 minutes walk away.

Now I’m not saying that not having it in the house makes it impossible to eat it! Of course not! It’s just that the extra effort required to go to the shop, or reach up high into the cupboard, could be enough to make NOT eating the junk food an easier option.

Other examples include packing your gym clothes the night before to make it easier to work out, or getting an app (like Antisocial) on your computer to block social media between certain hours, making it harder to surf Facebook or Twitter at will.

Having systems in place to make things easier for you to change a habit could make all the difference.

I’d love to know one specific example of how you could use this in your life. Let me know in the comments and please share this article if you liked it.

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‘Splendour’ – Live Hypnosis and Sculpture Event

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hypnotherapy for creativityLast week I collaborated with artist Karianne Stresland for the opening night of SKULPTUR – an exhibition at the Royal British Society of Sculptors in South Kensington of Nordic artists. I delivered a live session of hypnotherapy to help Karianne to channel the calm focus and strength needed to create an original sculpture live in front of 150 attendees. It was certainly to noisiest client session I’ve ever had!

Karianne stresland It was one of the more intriguing uses for hypnotherapy I’ve ever been involved with.

Here’s the finished sculpture – which can be seen along with a collection of some amazing other sculptures and installations at The Royal Society of Sculptors, 108 Old Brompton Road, SW7 3RA. Do check it out if you find yourself in South Kensington.

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How to Increase your Willpower with this Quick Trick

How to Increase your Willpower with this Quick Trick

How to Increase your Willpower with this Quick Trick

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The Power of Expectation and Intention

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hypnotherapy in londonThe Power of Expectation and Intention

We all know someone who is very determined; someone who just ‘decides’ that they are going to do something… and then it just happens. They want it to happen, they expect it to happen and then it does. It looks easy. It seems effortless. Things just seem to fall in their lap. Do you know someone like that?

Would you like to tap into some of that for yourself?

The power of intention is simply this; whatever we put our intention and attention on, we bring into our lives. Evidence suggests that what we expect will happen is more likely to happen.

I know that I noticed a huge improvement in my life when I decided to get clear on what I wanted, reminded myself of it often, set goals, trained myself to expect things to happen and go well, and then, eventually, watched and enjoyed as things started to move in that direction.

Some people who have read ‘The Secret’ may believe that this is due to a ‘force of attraction’, a force of nature that causes like to attract like; whatever we focus on, good or bad, we bring into our lives.

I prefer, however, to think of it in terms of the subconscious mind.

The majority of your thoughts, feelings and actions come from the subconscious, under the surface of your conscious mind, where you have your day to day, conscious thoughts.

If our intention is rooted at this subconscious level, then our thoughts, feelings and actions are directing us towards the object of our intention.

Intention could be another way of saying ‘what you put your energy on’. If we set our intention and remind ourselves of it frequently, we could be subconsciously taking that on board. The subconscious could then be guiding us towards it’s fulfilment, helping us to focus, make the little changes and notice the opportunities that arise that help us to get there.

It’s a bit like when you’re looking to buy some new trainers. Suddenly you can’t help but notice people’s trainers all the time. You notice the ones you like that other people are wearing, you see adverts for trainers everywhere and you notice them in shop windows, when in the past they would have been something you ignored or barely noticed.

Subconsciously we’re more likely to notice opportunities and information that helps us to get closer to what we want, as well as giving us the focus we need to move towards it.

Sometimes, I’ll set an intention to get a solution to a problem, or an answer to a question that’s been troubling me. I’ll either say to myself, or write down what I want clarity on. It’s like I’m just deciding to myself that a solution is going to present itself.

It’s amazing how, often within just a few days, the answer or solution will become apparent. I discover a book that gives me the answer, I’ll meet someone that helps me, or an idea will just pop into my head.

I think this is a bit like the trainer thing, when we set an intention for something, we’re subconsciously on the lookout for answers.

And the power of expectation and intention is so strong that scientific studies have to account for it.

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The gold standard for scientific studies are double blind studies, since if either the experimenter or the participant has an expectancy or intention for the outcome of the study, it is thought that this can cause them to unconsciously effect the results. It’s called ‘expectancy effects’. In studies, what the experimenter or participant thinks will happen, or wants to happen, is more likely to happen. This expectancy is similar to intention.

In the placebo effect, when a person believes that they are going to get better, this can help them to get better, even if they are just given a dummy pill rather than actual medicine. They are intending and expecting to get better and therefore they do.

Several meta analyses suggest that the placebo effect accounts for over 75% of the effectiveness of antidepressant medication and all studies into medication must be placebo controlled to account for it’s strong effect.

So how can you use the power of your intention to bring good things into your life? Here are some ideas.

Create a vision board

Creating a visual representation of the things you want for yourself can act as a quick and easy way to drip feed reminders to your subconscious. Fill a sheet of paper with all the things you want for yourself, be they work related, material possessions, health related, a holiday or another personal goal or milestone. Stick it up somewhere you can see it and review it regularly. Cultivate positive feelings of expectation as you look at your vision board and ‘expect’ it to all happen for you.

Set SMART goals

Goal setting is a great way to set your intention for something. By setting a SMART goal, you are setting it in a really specific and measurable way and you’re increasing your focus on it by setting it within a time frame. Make sure goals are specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and within a time frame. For example, I am earning £xyz per year by 15th August 2015.

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Visualisation

In hypnotherapy and NLP we call this ‘future pacing’. The subconscious doesn’t know the difference between something we vividly imagine and a real situation. By visualising things as we would like them to be in the future, we are mentally preparing ourselves to bring them into reality, creating expectation, whilst also boosting focus and motivation needed to help us to get there. Use all of your senses; sight, feelings, thoughts, smells, tastes, sounds and sensations to make it really vivid and rich.

Remember, this works best when we set our intention and then expect it to happen!

I’d love to hear any questions or comments you have and hear about the ways you’ve used intention in your own lives.

 

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5 Ways Hypnotherapy can help with Anxiety

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hypnotherapy for stress5 Ways Hypnotherapy can help with Anxiety

Be more mindful.
Humans beings are the only species to suffer with anxiety. Although animals experience fear, they don’t get anxious because they spend their lives in the present moment. A dog doesn’t ruminate over the mistakes it made in the past, or get worried about how things will be in the future. Being more mindful and present is a key way that we can reduce anxiety, since so often anxiety is about worries about the past or future. Hypnotherapy can enhance mindfulness, helping you to pay attention to the present moment and enjoy it for what it is.

Inner Resources
Whether you realise it now or not, you’ve already overcome a lot. Being born (physically very demanding!), learning to walk, learning to talk; these are all quite amazing things when you think about it. Subconsciously you’ve also taken on board a lot of information, whether you know it consciously or not; things you’ve learned from other people, insights you’ve gained and difficulties you’ve overcome. Hypnotherapy can help you to tune into all these abilities and learnings and help you to use them for good in other situations in your life, so that you feel more confident, resilient and calm.

Mental Rehearsal
When we think about an event that we’re worried or fearful about, what usually happens? Most people with anxiety will imagine things going wrong; they’ll imagine disaster striking, or some major embarrassment or catastrophe. By doing this, they are reinforcing the fear in their own minds. During a hypnotherapy session, we do the opposite by mentally rehearsing the event going well and imagining how calm and smoothly things go. This helps to persuade the subconscious mind that things can go well and the result is that the client feels much more relaxed and confident when they think about it.

Let go of the past
Anxious thoughts and feelings can often be the result of things from our past. Perhaps you went through a stressful time when you were younger. Maybe a parent was very anxious or worried and you copied them. Whatever it was, if you can learn something, you can unlearn it. Hypnotherapy can help you to reprogramme your mind so that can learn helpful and healthy was of responding, without anxiety.

Accept your feelings
Have you heard of the phrase ‘what you resist, persists’? Sometimes when we really fight against anxiety, it strengthens it all the more. Hypnotherapy can help you to learn to accept that sometimes anxious feeling may arise, but that they are nothing you can’t cope with and the feeling will pass.

I’ve seen incredible results with my anxiety clients and it’s so wonderful to see how people can change in only a few sessions. If you’d like to discuss how hypnotherapy could help you, get in touch.

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